I like to think of people as bones. We are strong, intricate, complex, and durable. But the moment we have something happen to us that emotionally hurts, we break. During this time we need to repair the damage done and go back to the daily grind. But that is the issue, taking the necessary time to better ourselves. (And for those of you who don't like the bone metaphor, tough shit, I like it.)
We live our lives making rash decisions and then end up regretting them after. People don't know how to be alone anymore, and it's painful to watch. You break up with someone and you immediately need to find some sort of a rebound because you can't deal with life by yourself. That's a problem. Or you are with someone, kind of, and you still think that there is better out there. Let me tell you something, if you have someone right now, left tomorrow to a new country, you would find someone else just as amazing. It's just the way it is. Why are we so unsatisfied with what we have? When did we become so weak?
I was one of these people. I would go through a breakup and not know what to do with myself, so I would fall in love quickly (stupidly) and hurt even harder than the last time. It was immature, it was foolish, it was beneath me. That shit changed, because it had to. You have to grow up, which sounds harsh, but you need to be able to rely on yourself for happiness because no one can actually fill that void until you can do it for yourself.
A perfect example is a one night stand. You break up with someone and then decide to just sleep with someone. You don't feel great after, you feel incomplete. You aren't with that person, they don't give a shit if you are in emotional pain, you are simply a pin cushion and go home now. Is this the respect you pay yourself? Because it certainly isn't love.
You have to love yourself first. No one out there will put up with you unless you can put up with yourself. You should be a privilege to love, not a responsibility. And if you are in a "relationship" that is either stagnant or not what you thought it would be than LEAVE. Do you have any idea how special you are? What you deserve? Every single living being deserves to feel happiness and only you can start the chain reaction. Your attitude about yourself will attract individuals who respect you. Leave the misery to those who love the company of it, and better yourself. Take the time to figure you out.
And if you are the type of person who can't be single, like I once was, then you need to learn how to like yourself. Because you are simply over compensating for the things you aren't confident about within yourself. Relationships don't define you.
Don't limit your worth.
